Monday, May 18, 2026

Leadership is More Than Knowledge and Expertise


Two leadership related statements stayed with me over the past year.

The first was:

“People respect someone and consider them a leader only when they see strong knowledge and expertise.”

The second was:

“There is a thin line between being friendly and being a friend.”

Both statements were made (in separate conversations) in the context of discussing the traits of a good leader. While leadership is far broader and more nuanced than these two perspectives alone, I found myself reflecting deeply on them.

Having observed leaders, teams, and workplace dynamics across a career spanning 23 years, I find myself agreeing with both statements to an extent. Expertise and knowledge certainly matter, and they do contribute to a leader’s credibility. However, I agree far more strongly with the second statement.

In fact, I recently came across a situation where both these statements could almost be analyzed side by side.

A close friend told me about a highly knowledgeable individual who took over a large team in his company. Multiple sub-teams were reporting into him and everyone was communicated the same. The person has robust domain knowledge and is highly experienced, and by the logic of the first statement, respect and leadership acceptance should have naturally followed. Yet, despite formal authority and clear communication structures, the individual continued struggling to gain genuine acceptance from the team.

Over time, it became increasingly visible that the challenge was not knowledge - it was leadership approach. In an attempt to be liked and accepted, the individual gradually became overly agreeable, tried to accommodate every concern, avoided taking firm positions, and focused heavily on staying in everyone’s good books. Last heard, he has also started to push back on few decisions of the management and has now adopted a 'Union Leader' approach, just to get the popularity votes. His leadership style has become less about balanced direction and more about seeking approval.

He also tends to take up the more important and visible tasks himself, possibly in an attempt to lead by example. While that may come from good intent, the way it is perceived by the team matters equally. When routine or less glamorous responsibilities are delegated, it sometimes creates an impression that such work is somehow beneath him. Over time, this can unintentionally weaken team ownership and create a sense of imbalance, because good leadership is not only about taking ownership of high-impact work, but also about demonstrating equal respect for every contribution within the team.

So, knowledge certainly matters. No two ways about it. Competence gives a leader credibility and creates confidence that the person understands the work. But expertise alone rarely guarantees respect or influence. Teams do not follow people only because they are knowledgeable. 

For example, in sports, some of the greatest players have not necessarily become the most successful captains or coaches. Technical brilliance may earn admiration, but leadership in a team environment requires the ability to inspire, manage personalities, maintain discipline, and make difficult decisions for the larger good of the team.

In fact, there have been examples where leaders proved their mettle despite having little or no technical expertise in the domain they were leading. Since I come from an automotive background, I naturally look at examples from that industry.

A fascinating real-world example is Alan Mulally. Before joining Ford Motor Company, he spent most of his career at Boeing and was not an automobile expert. Many within Ford understood the technical side of the business far better than he did. Yet Mulally became one of Ford’s most respected leaders - not because of technical superiority, but because of his ability to bring clarity, accountability, collaboration, and direction to the organization.

Coming to the second statement, I agree that problems begin when a leader crosses the line from being friendly to becoming a friend. In an attempt to be liked, some leaders start agreeing with everyone, validating every grievance, avoiding difficult conversations, and trying too hard to stay in everyone’s good books. While this may create temporary goodwill, it often weakens long-term respect.

Teams usually respect leaders who can maintain balance - leaders who are empathetic without losing objectivity, approachable without losing authority, and supportive without avoiding accountability.

Knowledge may create initial credibility. But leadership is ultimately sustained by maturity, balance, and the ability to maintain that fine line.

Sunday, May 17, 2026

Breaking News: Good Orators Don’t Automatically Become Good Actors


Yesterday, I watched the movie Kartavya starring Saif Ali Khan, Sanjay Mishra, Rasika Dugal, Manish Chaudhari, Saharsh Kumar Shukla, Zakir Hussain and journalist-turned-actor Saurabh Dwivedi. The film itself was extremely mediocre. The storyline felt weak and too predictable with very little that could engage the audience.

So why am I wasting even more time and writing about it? 

Though one must be kind because it is his first movie, I simply could not stop myself from writing about just how disappointing Saurabh Dwivedi’s performance turned out to be. He is an exceptionally gifted speaker and has built a strong reputation through his lengthy and compelling monologues on 'The Lallantop', which he has now left. Naturally, I expected him to carry at least some of that effortless command and screen presence into cinema. Unfortunately, the opposite happened.

Dwivedi appears in only a handful of scenes, despite being positioned as the film’s principal antagonist. More importantly, nearly all his scenes are shared with seasoned performers like Sanjay Mishra, Manish Chaudhari, Saharsh Kumar Shukla and Saif Ali Khan. The contrast is brutal. Against actors with such natural rhythm and command over dialogue delivery, his performance feels even more fragile and unconvincing.

Almost every line he speaks sounds rehearsed rather than lived. There is no conversational flow, emotional spontaneity or screen instinct. His expressions appear stiff, his pauses unnatural and his dialogue delivery painfully artificial. In many scenes, it genuinely becomes uncomfortable to watch. His performance can be used as the case study of what not do in acting.

The director deserves equal criticism here. Either Dwivedi was miscast from the beginning or he was not directed properly enough to hide his limitations. It almost feels as though the makers themselves realized midway that the performance was not working, because his screen presence appears noticeably reduced as the film progresses. Whether that was due to editing choices or a conscious attempt to minimize damage, the result is obvious on screen.

I am not sure whether he has more films or web series lined up, but I hope he improves as an actor. Though, based on this performance, I will not put my money on it!

The Boy Who Bowled MS Dhoni


There are stories that stay with you because they were extraordinary. And then there are stories that stay with you because they were unfinished.

This is about a school friend named Ariel.

Ariel was from Jharkhand. Even his name sounded unusual back then. But that was not the unusual part about him. Ariel played cricket with a polio-affected leg. And yet, he was unbelievably good. Even today, when I think of Ariel, I remember one thing before anything else - how ridiculously difficult he was to bat against.

I was never much of a batsman, but I still remember once facing around twenty deliveries from him and failing to connect even one properly. I know, youy guys would argue that it only reflected my batting (in)abilities. Fair enough! But that was not the real issue. Ariel had one of the most difficult bowling actions I have ever faced.

Because of his affected leg, his run-up and delivery stride were awkward, unpredictable and extremely deceptive. And then came the real problem - he could bowl leg-spin, googly, off-spin and wrong ones with almost the same action.

Trust me, I am not kidding or exaggerating.

We were in Kendriya Vidyalaya Dipatoli in Ranchi. Before Ariel got selected for the school cricket team, I had never seen him bowl. To be honest, when I first heard about his selection, I assumed he would become a liability in the field. I thought the captain would probably have to hide him somewhere because of his leg.

Then came the first match. I did not go to watch it. And in that very match, Ariel bowled us to a convincing victory against a decent side. Naturally, I became curious.

The next game was against Central Academy, one of the strongest school cricket teams in Ranchi at the time. They had won the Inter-School League multiple times and had also finished runners-up on several occasions. Their batting line-up included a hugely talented and popular batsman named Deepak Lal, who apparently had a reputation for never getting bowled.

Ariel dismissed him with a googly.

Not just dismissed him - completely foxed and bowled him!!

He took three wickets in that match. We still lost, but that day I realized just how special he was. Later, my cousin, who studied in Central Academy, told me that their batsmen could not stop talking about Ariel.

Our next match was against the mighty DAV Jawahar Vidya Mandir - commonly known as DAV Shyamali. Their admissions were famous for two things: excellence in academics and excellence in sports. They also seemed to have a few “over-aged” players. One batsman honestly looked more like a coach than a student.

They beat us comfortably. But Ariel left an impression there too.

Kendriya Vidyalayas used to send students for regional and national selections. Ariel was selected by our school for the regional trials in Patna.

And this is the part that still annoys me when I think about it.

He travelled all the way to Patna, only to be rejected before even getting a chance to bowl in the nets. The selectors looked at his crippled leg and decided he could not play. That was it. No trial. No assessment. No opportunity.

Ariel challenged them.

He asked them to put their best batsman against him for one over. He said that if he managed to dismiss the batsman even once, they should at least give him a fair chance. The selectors agreed.

The batsman they chose was the captain of the district team. Ariel bowled him three times in that one over. And still, he was sent back to Ranchi. Nothing changed.

The following season, we again played against DAV Shyamali. We batted first and collapsed to 45 for 8 in six overs in a fifteen-over match. Ariel played a useful innings lower down the order and somehow dragged us to 114.

It was still nowhere near enough against a side like DAV. Then...Ariel bowled.

He picked up four wickets in his three overs while conceding very few runs. One of the batsmen he dismissed that day was a boy named Mahendra Singh Dhoni - who would later become one of the greatest white-ball wicketkeeper-batsman of all time, arguably the best finisher the game has seen and India’s most successful white-ball captain.

We still lost the match. But once again, Ariel walked away having impressed everyone except the people who mattered.

Over the next couple of years, I watched him play many matches. He was a genuinely gifted bowler, a decent batsman and a very sharp close-in fielder. Running was his only real limitation. But talent alone is rarely enough in India.

Ariel came from a lower-middle-class family. His family could not support his cricket financially. He could not afford club cricket. He was not particularly interested in academics and eventually became ineligible to continue representing the school team. Slowly, his cricket reached a dead end.

Years passed.

He later started a small music band in Ranchi and performed at local functions, events and perhaps even church gatherings. But one thing about Ariel never changed - his smile. It was infectious. So was his energy. He was one of those people who made conversations easy.

I passed out of school in 1997 and after that we gradually lost touch. Even during our final years in school, we hardly met because he had failed a couple of times academically and we were no longer in the same class. Later he continued his education privately and we mostly met only during inter-school cricket tournaments.

I met him once around 1999 when another school friend and I went to meet old friends in Ranchi. Ariel was exactly the same - warm, cheerful and welcoming. His family treated us like their own.

Years later, around 2011, I visited his house again when I was in Ranchi for a few months around my daughter’s birth and while preparing for my move to Malaysia. He was not home when I arrived, but his family once again welcomed me warmly. Ariel later came back and we spent some time together.

After that, our meetings became infrequent. Occasionally, whenever I visited Ranchi, we would meet over drinks.

Then came COVID.

And strangely enough, during the pandemic, our school batch suddenly became enthusiastic about organizing a reunion in Ranchi. I knew from the beginning that I probably would not attend, especially because of the pandemic, but as usual I involved myself actively in the planning so that my eventual withdrawal would not surprise anyone.

Ariel became part of the core organizing group because he was one of the few batchmates based in Ranchi. He helped tremendously. He visited resorts, negotiated prices and coordinated logistics. At one point, some people were unhappy with the deal he negotiated with a resort, so I spoke to the management over phone and together we managed to work out a much better arrangement.

Eventually, close to the reunion date, I informed everyone that I would not be able to attend. Soon after that, the entire reunion got postponed indefinitely. Ariel was disappointed. He had genuinely been looking forward to meeting everyone. This was sometime in the second half of 2020, after the first wave of the pandemic.

We remained in touch through phone calls, WhatsApp and social media. He spoke about the shoe shop he had opened and the struggles of running a small business. Several months later, during a WhatsApp video call with a few school friends, someone suggested adding Ariel to the call.

He answered.

And I remember feeling shocked the moment the screen opened. He was lying on a hospital bed with an oxygen mask on. He told us he had COVID.

If I remember correctly, this was during the beginning of the second wave. By then, my parents had already contracted COVID and recovered. A few years earlier, I myself had been hospitalized in Malaysia with a rare form of pneumonia and had experienced dangerously low oxygen levels.

So when Ariel told me that his oxygen saturation was around 88, I tried to reassure him. He had removed his oxygen mask while talking to us and he still sounded relatively stable. I told him I had seen patients in much worse condition recover fully. I told him everything would be alright. That he should wear the mask again, avoid talking too much and follow the doctors’ instructions carefully.

He became a little calmer.

But before ending the call, he asked me one more question.

“Will I be alright?”

I told him confidently, “Yes. One hundred percent.”

A week later, Ariel passed away. And even today, that question haunts me.

“Will I be alright?”

He was sitting alone in a dark hospital room, away from his loved ones, searching for reassurance and hope. I still wonder whether I gave him enough of it. I do not know.

What I do know is this - every time school friends now discuss reunions, I quietly stay away from the discussions. Because some absences change the meaning of gatherings forever.

And any reunion without you would never really feel complete my friend.

Saturday, May 16, 2026

The Threshold for Greatness Changes

For decades, 10,000 Test runs was cricket’s sacred line.

Cross it, and you entered a different room in history. It separated the merely excellent from the immortals. Sachin Tendulkar, Rahul Dravid, Jacques Kallis, Ricky Ponting, Alastair Cook - the club itself became shorthand for batting greatness.

But sport evolves. And when sport evolves, the thresholds for greatness evolve with it.

Football once had a similar problem. Before 1995, the Ballon d’Or was restricted to European players. That meant PelĂ© and Diego Maradona were ineligible for the sport’s biggest individual honour during their primes. The rules eventually changed because excluding names of that magnitude made the criteria look incomplete.

Cinema did the same with Charlie Chaplin. The Oscars eventually had to correct themselves with honorary recognition because history could not seriously tell the story of film while leaving Chaplin outside its highest institutional validation.

Earlier, winning the World Cup was often seen as the final measure of greatness in football. Though he eventually lifted it in 2022, many people already considered Lionel Messi one of the greatest ever because two decades of brilliance mattered more than a single trophy.

Cricket now faces a similar moment with Virat Kohli.

The game he played was not the game previous generations played. Modern cricketers exist in a year-round cycle of Tests, ODIs, T20Is, franchise leagues, travel, media scrutiny, and relentless athletic demands. Batting across formats today is physically and mentally more taxing than it was for most earlier eras.

And yet, despite that burden, Kohli retired with 9,230 Test runs at an elite average, across conditions, eras, and attacks. Any honest list of Test batting greats is incomplete without him.

Which raises the obvious question:

If a threshold excludes someone universally accepted as great, is the threshold still correct?

Maybe the number was never sacred. Maybe it was only symbolic.

For this era, the line can no longer be 10,000 test runs.

Now, the threshold for greatness most certainly is 9,230.


Thursday, May 14, 2026

The Person He Left Behind

During his school years, he was known by his given first name. However, when he began his undergraduate studies in 1994, he chose to go by “Vicky,” his nickname. To his parents - the Mehtas - and among close relatives, he had always been Vicky.

For several years, he hated being called by his nickname in public but that changed after the release of the movie Baazigar in 1993. Shah Rukh Khan - whose character’s real name was Ajay Sharma - pretended to be ‘Vicky Malhotra’ in the movie. Vicky Malhotra was stylish and suave, and suddenly, the name ‘Vicky’ was no longer repulsive for the Mehta boy.

Right from his school days, Vicky was a very popular student with an outgoing personality. He did well academically, was reasonably good at sports, and carried himself with an easy confidence that drew people toward him. Sociable and friendly by nature, he was well-liked among his peers, and his charming presence rarely went unnoticed. He also had a noticeable fascination with bikes, and it was no secret among his friends that he dreamed of becoming a biker one day.

During junior college (in Mumbai, unlike many other cities in India, students typically complete their 11th and 12th grades in junior colleges rather than in school), despite being under the legal driving age, he began riding his Yamaha RX-100 to college. It was well known that he wished to own a Harley-Davidson Fat Boy - the same motorcycle used by Arnold Schwarzenegger in Terminator 2: Judgment Day.


During college, Vicky maintained a stylish and modern lifestyle that suited his image, and coming from a financially well-off family only added to his popularity among girls. His father, Kamal Kant Mehta, was a successful businessman involved in the distribution of various products, including FMCG goods, consumer durables, hardware, fire extinguishers, and a three-wheeler goods carrier brand. Kamal Mehta remained completely occupied with his business throughout the day, yet he also knew how to party. He had many friends - something Vicky found extremely fascinating and aspirational.

Kamal Mehta spent most evenings drinking and socializing with friends. He was a heavy drinker and had little time for his wife, Devyani, Vicky’s mother. He possessed a cheerful personality and was often told that he reminded people of the famous actor - Rishi Kapoor.

Kamal’s weekends were reserved for short road trips outside the city, while holidays were devoted to road trips, good food, leisure, and celebration. Unlike Vicky, who was fond of bikes, Kamal Mehta was passionate about cars and owned several of them. However, his prized possession was the Lexus LS400, which he purchased after learning that Harshad Mehta owned the same model. For the uninitiated, Harshad Mehta was a prominent Indian stockbroker in the late 1980s and early 1990s, known for his massive influence on the stock market and for orchestrating one of India’s biggest financial scandals.

Kamal’s weekend and holiday trips were often only with his friends. On the rare occasions when Devyani and Vicky were part of the plan, Kamal’s friends - and their families - would also join. Kamal spent lavishly on his friends. He was a generous man who did not think twice before doing so. He was also extremely trusting. In most of his businesses, he had made his friends his business partners simply to remain close to them and to look after them. He had also loaned large sums of money to an endless list of friends. He neither maintained proper records nor did he concern himself with repayment.

While Kamal appeared largely absorbed in his own world, he loved Vicky and cared for him in his own ways. His relationship with Devyani was complicated. He provided for her generously and often bought her gifts yet rarely spent meaningful time with her. In the early years, drawn by his charm and sociable nature, Devyani suspected that Kamal might be a womanizer, which she believed explained his preference for travelling without his family. Over time, however, she realized this was not true. Kamal was simply a fun-loving man who enjoyed companionship and social life but remained loyal to his family and principled in his conduct. Nevertheless, Devyani remained frustrated with Kamal’s lifestyle and choices, Vicky, on the other hand, admired it deeply and wished to emulate his father.


In early 1997, before Vicky could complete his Bachelor of Commerce degree at Narsee Monjee College of Commerce and Economics, his father, Kamal Mehta, passed away unexpectedly. Vicky was on campus when someone came to inform him. The news left him stunned and shattered.

While his father’s death appeared sudden, Vicky soon came to know that Kamal had been struggling with several lifestyle-related health issues. Kamal had always been slightly overweight and was living with diabetes. His demanding work schedule and frequent social engagements had severely disrupted his sleep cycle, and he was also suffering from Obstructive Sleep Apnea (OSA). Kamal had largely ignored these conditions. Devyani was aware of his health issues, but the details had not been shared with Vicky.

However, his father’s health problems were only the beginning of Vicky’s harsh awakening.

In the days following Kamal’s death, Vicky discovered that much of the life he had grown up believing in had been built on fragile foundations. He realized that most of his father’s money, assets, and above all, his friends, disappeared almost immediately. The friends on whom Kamal had sworn by and on whom he had spent his time and money never came forward to support Vicky and his mother. Since they were also business partners, they took control over most of the assets and funds and told the family that the businesses were riddled with debt and that most of the assets had been used as security for loans. Due to the lack of paperwork and, perhaps, lack of interest or emotional strength to fight, Devyani did not pursue the matter and accepted her fate.

The only friend who stood by the family was Yashvardhan Kumar, a college classmate of Kamal, whom Kamal referred to as ‘Yash’ and whom Vicky called ‘Kumar Uncle’. Yashvardhan Kumar was also a businessman, but he was never part of Kamal’s usual ‘gang’, primarily due to his dislike for Kamal’s other friends. He ensured that Devyani and Vicky were able to retain their house and receive some money and control over a couple of businesses. They also got his father’s deep red colored Lexus LS400. This support ensured that Devyani and Vicky had at least a few things left to help them pick themselves up and move ahead in life.

While all was not lost, Vicky’s life changed completely after his father’s demise. For a few months, he withdrew into a shell; barely talking to anyone and avoiding his usual activities such as riding, going out with friends, and partying. Eventually, he managed to pull himself together and complete his graduation. Throughout this period, Vicky kept thinking about his father. While Kamal had appeared to have everything under control, in reality, he had been reckless with many of his life choices. From idolizing his father, Vicky gradually began almost resenting him and blaming him for putting both him and his mother in such a difficult situation. Perhaps he was also unhappy that he would no longer be able to follow his dreams and would have to lead a life very different from what he had once envisioned.

Vicky was also worried about his mother, who did not show much emotion after Kamal’s death. Upon speaking with her, Vicky realized that although she was indeed heartbroken and missed her husband, not much had changed in her life. She had never cared much for money, the house, or any other luxury. What she had wanted from Kamal was time and togetherness, which she had not received. During their days together, she longed for special moments with him, but Kamal would not even remember their wedding anniversary or her birthday. Now that Kamal was no longer there, her daily life remained largely the same.

Somewhere during those difficult months, Vicky made a silent promise to himself. He decided that he would never live the way his father had. He would not allow ambition, status, or reckless choices to consume his life. He wanted to become someone who valued stability over appearances, loyalty over popularity, and relationships over social prestige. He promised himself that if he ever built a family of his own, he would be present for them in ways Kamal had never been. He would take responsibility for his actions, protect the people who depended on him, and never mistake outward success for true fulfilment.

Vicky started going to the office and reviving his father’s businesses that he had gained control of. He began working immensely hard. He had inherited his father’s business acumen. While he spent long hours at the office, he also ensured that he maintained a healthy lifestyle and work–life balance. He made it a point to go to bed by 10:00 PM every day. Unlike his life prior to his father’s demise, he completely quit partying and drinking. He would wake up at 4:30 AM and practise yoga at 5:00 AM every day. He would go for a jog afterwards and have his breakfast sharp at 8:00 AM. At 9:00 AM, before his office staff arrived, he would reach the office and immerse himself in work. On most days, he left the office at 5:30 PM and went home to spend time with his mother.


Amidst his increasingly busy and disciplined routine, Vicky no longer found time to ride his motorcycle - something he missed deeply, though he rarely admitted it even to himself. Over time, he began convincing himself that riding was an unsafe and impractical passion, a youthful indulgence that no longer had a place in the life he was trying to lead.

In an effort to suppress that lingering attachment, he sold his Yamaha RX-100.

He also had the option of using his father’s Lexus LS400, but by then, the car had come to symbolise much more than luxury. To him, it represented many of the choices and excesses that had defined Kamal Mehta’s life - choices he had consciously decided to move away from. He sold the Lexus as well and bought a far more modest and practical Opel Astra.

The car’s registration number was MH04X7431.

He specifically chose the number 7431 because it had once belonged to his Yamaha RX-100 - a quiet reminder of a part of himself he had tried hard to leave behind, yet could never completely let go of.

And despite all his efforts to distance himself from his father’s tastes and lifestyle, there was one detail he could not resist.

He bought the Opel Astra in deep red — the exact same colour as Kamal Mehta’s Lexus.


Perhaps the biggest change in him was that he stopped using the name “Vicky” altogether. Gradually, he began introducing himself by his official name instead, almost as if he wanted “Vicky” to slowly disappear. Over time, most people around him came to know him only by that identity.

By late 1999, his hard work and discipline had begun to pay off, and the businesses were flourishing. But did it make him happy? When he looked at the Profit and Loss (P&L) statements and saw positive numbers, it gave him a sense of relief - nothing more. It never brought a smile to his face. He would tell his mother - and himself - that he was happy, but the words sounded hollow.

He had changed completely. Everyone around him, including Devyani, could see it. He had become the exact opposite of who he was before his father’s death. The enthusiasm in his voice had faded. He now spoke softly, slowly, and with careful restraint. He allowed himself only one day off each week - Sunday. Even that day was spent alone at Kumar Uncle’s beach house in Alibaug, sitting by the sea for hours, lost in thought.

His mother worried that he had begun to appear like a sad and uninteresting man - someone with no friends, no joy, and no companion. Someone who approached life as a ‘to-list list’.

This changed on a fateful day on 15th September 2000. As usual, he returned from the office - which was quite close to his home - at 5:50 PM. His routine ‘required’ him to spend some time with his mother, but she was not at home. She had left for Pune, leaving behind a note that said her sister was unwell and that she would return after a week. The sudden gap in his carefully planned schedule left him feeling clueless and restless.

He stepped out for a walk and, almost absentmindedly, wandered into a nearby coffee shop he had passed countless times before but never once entered. The place had a quiet, old-world charm - simple wooden furniture, slightly faded walls, and the comforting aroma of freshly brewed coffee lingering in the air. It was run by a chubby, elderly Parsi woman named Delshad Irani, who seemed to know most of her customers by name. She moved around the café with a natural sense of belonging, occasionally pausing to exchange a few words with customers or offering them a warm, knowing smile. When he entered, Delshad greeted him kindly, and the two exchanged introductions.

He chose a corner table and was scanning the menu when he noticed a girl sitting at a table close by. There was something about her that made him lower the menu and look at her for a moment longer than he intended to. She wore a pink top and blue jeans, her hair - slightly longer than shoulder length - were open. She appeared cheerful, yet quietly reserved. He felt an uncontrollable urge to speak to her but hesitated, unsure of what to say. After a few moments of indecision, he finally gathered the courage to greet her. When she responded with a simple “Hi” and an encouraging smile, he asked if she could recommend something from the cafĂ©. She suggested a cold coffee and a chicken sandwich. He was - or had become - more of an espresso person, but he ordered what she suggested.

A brief silence followed. Then he asked if she was waiting for someone. She said she was, but it seemed her friend would not be coming. He asked if she would like to join him, and she agreed. They exchanged introductions. She told him her name was Pooja, and he introduced himself by his official name.


What began as casual conversation slowly stretched into hours. They spoke about ordinary things - fragments of their lives, small memories, passing thoughts - yet none of it felt ordinary to him. He found himself enjoying her company far more than he had expected. He would ask her something, listen to her answer, and then continue looking at her long after she had finished speaking.

Without fully realizing it, Mehta Boy was beginning to fall in love!!

Yet, around 9:15 PM, he started getting restless as it was getting dangerously close to his bedtime! He told her that he needed to return home for dinner with his mother, and they left the coffee shop after exchanging numbers.

The next day, before leaving the office, he called Pooja and asked if she would like to meet again at the same coffee shop. She agreed. They met again, and then again, for the next five days.

On the seventh day, 22nd September 2000 - a day before his mother was scheduled to return - he called Pooja once more. This time, she suggested they meet somewhere else. They chose an ice-cream parlour close to the coffee shop. As they were about to part, Pooja asked where they would meet the next time. He hesitated. He knew that his mother would return the next day and his schedule would not have time for these unscheduled adventures. He told her he would decide and let her know over the phone and they left the ice cream parlour.

He did not call Pooja the next day as there was no time. He was firm that he would not change his schedule as it would mean leading life like his father. However, he was missing Pooja and was miserable. He went about his planned schedule and hit the bed at 10PM but today sleep was on Pooja’s side and ditched him in retaliation.

Next day, Pooja called his office and he was all over the place while coming up with an excuse for not calling her. Finally, he told Pooja that some urgent work has come up and it would keep him occupied for next few days. He promised to call as soon as the work is over. He tried to hurriedly put down the phone but right before he hung up, he heard a faint “I miss you” on the other side of the line. This made him even more miserable.

Yet he managed to show restraint for 4 days. He would come home and spend time with his mother but would remain lost in his thoughts. Sleep continued to take revenge on behalf of Pooja.

While her son’s face lacked zeal and emotion in any case, Devyani noticed the worsened behaviour and enquired about it. Though he was reluctant, he told everything to his mother. She was expecting that the reason would be something work or health related but was pleasantly surprised upon hearing that the reason is a young woman. Pooja sounded like the answers to her prayers. She firmly told him that he should call Pooja immediately and meet her. She also told him that if he is serious about her and he must express his feelings with her. Further, she told him that by not spending time with his mother, he is not becoming a lesser son and her happiness is interlinked with his happiness.

He felt both relieved and strangely certain of himself. Without wasting another moment, he called Pooja. The happiness in her voice when she heard him was impossible to miss, and she agreed to meet him immediately.

They met once again at the same coffee shop.

For nearly an hour, he sat across from her, listening to her speak and watching the subtle shifts in her expressions as she talked. Yet beneath his calm exterior, the emotions he had been suppressing for days continued to build. Every passing minute made the silence within him heavier.

Finally, he interrupted her gently.

His voice was quieter than usual, but there was certainty in it.

He told her how deeply he had missed her over the past few days. How the absence of her voice and presence had unsettled him in ways he could not explain. He admitted that the silence between them had felt louder than any noise in his life.

And then, before he could retreat into caution or overthink his words any further, he told her that he loved her.

Pooja smiled.

But at the same time, she seemed to steady herself emotionally before responding. She told him that she genuinely enjoyed spending time with him and admired the way he listened and understood people, but his confession had caught her by surprise. To her, it felt sudden and unexpected.

He listened quietly and replied that he was certain about what he felt. But he also understood that she might need more time. He suggested that they continue meeting, continue knowing each other better, and allow things to unfold naturally until she arrived at the same clarity herself.

She smiled again and nodded softly.

For the next fifteen minutes, neither of them spoke much. They simply sat there, exchanging occasional glances and quiet smiles that somehow said more than words could.

Afterwards, they stepped out of the coffee shop and waited for a taxi for her. While she was absorbed in watching the passing kaali-peeli taxis and autorickshaws, he kept looking at her. Suddenly, a little boy approached him with a bunch of red, heart-shaped balloons and asked if he would like to buy some of them. He checked his pocket and realized he did not have any small change. He did, however, find a five-rupee coin and asked the boy for a single balloon.

After buying it, he gently tapped Pooja on the shoulder and presented the balloon to her with both hands. He did not expect much of a reaction and was slightly worried that she might find the gesture childish or cheesy. To his surprise, she was genuinely delighted. It was getting dark, yet her face lit up - surprise in her eyes and a wide, open smile that seemed to erase the evening gloom.


It made his day, his month, and perhaps even his year. He could not remember the last time he had felt such uncomplicated joy. Unlike the quiet relief he felt when he saw growth in his profit and loss statements, the expression on Pooja’s face gave him a true sense of achievement and fulfilment. He silently promised himself that this would become their small ritual - that he would give her a balloon every time they met. Silly, perhaps. But then again, love is often silly.

They continued to meet. Days turned into weeks, and weeks into months. What had begun as a chance encounter slowly settled into a quiet, meaningful presence in his life. For the first time in years, his days were not just structured - they had something to look forward to.

He still followed his routine with discipline, but somewhere within that structure, Pooja had found her place. She brought with her a certain lightness that he had long forgotten. With her, conversations flowed without effort, silences felt comfortable, and time seemed to move differently.

He was happy.

Pooja, too, was happy. She enjoyed his company, his attentiveness, and the quiet sense of security he offered.

Then suddenly one day, Pooja told him that her parents wanted her to meet the son of their close friends - Mulchandanis - for a possible marriage alliance.

The news unsettled him.

She explained that she had already expressed her reluctance and discomfort to her parents, but they had insisted that she meet the boy at least once. She reassured him that she would go through with the meeting only to satisfy them and, if the opportunity arose, would make it clear that she was already in a relationship.

He listened quietly. For a brief moment, unease crept into his mind, but it passed almost immediately. He trusted her.

After her meeting with the boy, Pooja called him to the cafĂ© and told him about the meeting. The boy’s name was Sameer Mulchandani. She described him as good-looking, polite, and well-spoken, though there was also something carefree and boyish about him. She admitted that she had felt unexpectedly comfortable talking to him because he, too, had apparently not been very enthusiastic about the arranged setup. She even told Sameer that she believed people should be in love before deciding to marry. And somewhere during the conversation, she told Sameer about him. When she finished narrating the entire episode, he felt relieved.

They continued to meet as before.

On several occasions, he wanted to ask her - clearly, directly - if she saw a future with him. But he held himself back. He chose patience. He decided that he would give her time and, in the meantime, do everything he could to keep her happy.

One evening, they went out for dinner.

Midway through the meal, Sameer happened to walk into the same restaurant and noticed them. After a brief exchange, he joined their table without much hesitation.

He observed Sameer closely. Pooja had been right - Sameer did seem goofy and slightly immature.

Sameer asked about their plans after dinner and suggested they go somewhere else afterwards. Pooja seemed open to the idea, but almost instinctively, she looked towards him before responding. Sameer also looked towards him.

He declined by explaining that he had a fixed routine - he needed to be in bed by 10:00 PM. Pooja gently reasoned that one day would not change anything. Sameer also tried to convince him, pointing out that the next day was a Sunday.

But he calmly explained his schedule - waking up at 5:00 AM, yoga, jogging, breakfast at 8:00 AM, and then spending the day with Pooja at Kumar Uncle’s beach house.

Then he excused himself and went to the washroom. While he was away, Sameer casually asked Pooja if she would like to join him later that night. She declined, saying maybe some other time.

When he returned, a waiter followed him carrying three glasses of champagne. Pooja looked surprised and asked what the occasion was. He said, with a rare hint of warmth in his voice, that it marked the anniversary of the day he had first expressed his feelings to her.

He was happy. He believed he was finally doing what his father never did - celebrating moments, creating memories.

Sameer and Pooja remained in touch. He was aware of it and did not feel threatened. He trusted her, and perhaps more than that, he believed in what they shared.

They continued their drives - long, unplanned, and deeply cherished. Sometimes, he would even step out of the office during lunch just to spend time with her. These moments meant more to him than he cared to admit.

One day, Sameer joined them on one such drive. During the drive, he pointed out the cafĂ© where he had first met her on 15th September 2000. A little ahead, he showed the ice-cream parlour they had visited a week later. He spoke of those moments with quiet pride, almost as if recounting milestones. Pooja smiled, but something within her shifted slightly.


They continued meeting regularly, but slowly, almost imperceptibly, things began to change. At first, it was subtle enough for him to ignore. Her calls became less frequent. The conversations that once stretched effortlessly for hours now ended sooner than before. Sometimes she seemed distracted, drifting away mid-conversation as though her mind was elsewhere. The easy excitement she once carried whenever they met had started fading into something quieter and more distant. He noticed all of it.

But each time he sensed something slipping away, he convinced himself that he was overthinking. Perhaps she was stressed. Perhaps it was work, family, or simply the natural settling of a relationship after the initial excitement.

And so, instead of stepping back, he tried harder.

He called more often. Planned more carefully. Remembered more things. He became even more attentive, more available, more dependable - almost as if effort alone could hold together something he could no longer fully feel.

Yet somewhere deep inside, an uncomfortable fear had already begun taking shape. For the first time since expressing his feelings to Pooja, he felt emotionally helpless.

Then one day, Pooja called him and asked if they could meet at the same cafĂ© where they had first met. Something about her tone felt unusually formal and it made him anxious.

When he arrived, she was already there.

The warmth and familiarity between them still existed, but now it sat beneath an unmistakable layer of discomfort. After a few moments of silence and hesitant conversation, she finally looked at him and said that while she genuinely liked him and cared deeply for him, she no longer saw a future for their relationship.

For a brief moment, it felt as though something inside him quietly collapsed.

But outwardly, he remained composed.

He asked her, calmly, if she had met someone else. She paused. That pause said everything.

She nodded and told him that she had been seeing someone - it was Sameer. He had expressed his feelings, and they had been meeting for a few weeks.

He suddenly felt a sharp pain in his chest. He instinctively held it. She noticed and asked if he was alright. He straightened himself and said he was fine.

Then, very calmly, he asked, “Was it because of him… or because of me?”

Pooja looked down at the table. She seemed uncomfortable, as though she had hoped to avoid answering that question.

“It’s not that you’re a bad person,” she said softly. “You’re probably one of the nicest men I’ve ever met.” He smiled faintly, but there was no warmth in it.

“That usually means something is wrong.”

She let out a small, helpless smile.

“You’re too… careful”

He frowned slightly, not fully understanding.

“You plan everything. You remain in control all the time. Every day, every hour, every emotion.” She paused, choosing her words carefully. “Sometimes it feels like you’re trying so hard to be perfect that there’s no space left for life to happen naturally.”

He said nothing.

“You remember every date, every occasion, every tiny detail. At first, it felt sweet. But after a point… it started feeling rehearsed. Like you had decided what a good partner is supposed to do and were following it exactly.”

Her words did not sound cruel. That made them hurt even more.

“You know what I like about Sameer?” she continued quietly. “He’s imperfect. He’s late sometimes. He changes plans suddenly. He says stupid things. He has too many friends. He talks loudly, laughs loudly… and somehow, people are drawn to him. Life around him feels spontaneous.”

She looked at him gently. “With you, everything feels correct. But with him… everything feels alive.”

For the first time since she had begun speaking, something shifted inside him.

Too many friends. Spontaneous. Careless. Fun-loving. A man people were naturally drawn to.

He knew this person.

Kamal Mehta. His father. The very man he had spent years trying not to become. And suddenly, with terrifying clarity, he realised what had happened.

He used to be exactly like his father but in trying to escape his father’s mistakes, he had removed every trace of the person he once was. The outgoing boy who loved bikes, friendships, long rides, noise, laughter, and unpredictability had disappeared somewhere along the way.

He looked at her again, but now her words echoed differently in his head.

“You’re too disciplined.” Not an accusation. A verdict.

He was confused. For the first time in a long while, he felt uncertain about everything around him. Too many emotions crowded his mind at once, yet he chose not to say anything.

He looked at Pooja and wished her well and told her he hoped Sameer would keep her happy. Then, almost gently, he said that she could leave - he wanted to sit there for a while. She hesitated and asked if they could remain friends. For the first time, something in him stirred - a faint irritation - but it never reached his face.

He did not respond.

She waited for a few moments, searching his face for something - anything - but found nothing. And then she left.

He wanted to stop her. He wanted to ask her what he could change, what he could fix, what he could become. To ask her if there was still a way back. He felt the urge to confront Sameer, to break his skull open. But he was not like that. At least, no longer like that.

He sat quietly, staring at nothing.

A waiter approached and asked if he would like to order something. It was then that he realized - he had not ordered anything for her. He paused for a moment and said, almost mechanically, “Cold coffee… and a chicken sandwich.”  The same order.

When the coffee and sandwich arrived, he did not touch them. He just sat there, looking at them, as if they belonged to another time.

He sat there for an hour. During this time, once the anger, hurt and confusion settled a little, he realized that Pooja was not wrong. She had not betrayed him, nor had she mocked what they shared. She had simply wanted a kind of life he no longer knew how to offer. However, the painful truth was that she had not rejected who he ‘truly’ was; she had rejected the version of himself he had deliberately become.

He placed some money on the table and got up to leave. Just as he reached the entrance, a voice called out from behind - steady, familiar.

“Mr. Mehta”

He stopped. It was Delshad Irani, the owner of the café, who had been watching him from a distance. Over the past months, she had grown fond of the two of them. Something about their presence had brought life into her café.

After a brief pause, she called again, “Subodh...”

He stood still. For a fleeting moment, he wanted to turn around and say: “I am not Subodh. I am Vicky.”

But somewhere deep inside, he knew that would be too filmy….and untrue. So, he said nothing and quietly walked away.


Following is an actual image from the movie 'Dil Chahta Hai'. The character of Subodh in the movie inspired this story. 




King Kohli Does It Again!

Good game. Virat Kohli scored another century and Royal Challengers Bengaluru marches on. Back at the top of the table now, and qualification looks certain. The next target has to be finishing in the top two.

Happy with the RCB win. Happier with Kohli’s century.

But honestly, the moment that made me happiest was that stunning catch of Tim David taken by someone who I have always supported and wanted him to do well - Manish Pandey. Nonchalant. Clean. Effortless.

We speak a lot about great fielders like Kaif, Yuvi, Suresh Raina and Ravindra Jadeja, but I genuinely think Pandey Ji belongs right up there with the very best. His catching and outfield work have always been elite.

That catch today was pure class.

Monday, May 11, 2026

The Death of Boredom

These days we have endless options to entertain ourselves digitally. YouTube has millions of videos and shorts. Instagram has posts and reels, and the algorithms are so smart that they constantly show us exactly what we like - or what they think we want to see. Then there is WhatsApp to keep chatting with people all day. Add OTT platforms like Netflix, Amazon Prime Video, JioHotstar, Sony LIV, ZEE5, MUBI and countless others, all overflowing with content to watch. With so many options available at every second, we simply do not like even a moment of boredom anymore.

Something alarming happened today. I was watching a LIVE cricket match on TV and during every break, every strategic timeout, I found myself automatically looking for something else to watch. Whenever a decision was referred to the third umpire, I instinctively tapped the screen a couple of times to fast forward by 10-20 seconds - something that works on YouTube and OTT platforms but obviously not on LIVE television. At first, I found my own behavior funny. Then strange. And then honestly, a little alarming.

People my age have at least seen a different world. We have seen days with no TV, no electricity for hours, no mobile phones, no tablets, no internet. We have experienced boredom naturally because there simply were not endless distractions available all the time. But what about today’s kids? Imagine what constant exposure to reels, shorts, TikTok-style videos, binge watching and algorithm-driven entertainment is doing to attention spans and patience. If even we are struggling to sit through a 30-second pause in a LIVE match, what happens to a generation that has never really experienced waiting?

Ironically, studies now prove that embracing boredom is actually important for mental well-being. When the brain is not constantly stimulated, it shifts into what researchers call the “default mode network” - a state linked to creativity, self-reflection and problem-solving. Boredom is not something the mind should always escape from. In many ways, it pushes us to think deeper, reflect more, set goals, develop patience and reconnect with ourselves instead of depending on constant digital stimulation every waking second.

Maybe boredom was never the enemy. Maybe our inability to sit quietly with our own thoughts is. May be, we should let children experience boredom from time to time.

A Missed Chance Amid Victory


What a match. Royal Challengers Bengaluru pushed Mumbai Indians to the wall by taking three wickets in the PowerPlay, but then allowed them to recover through poor fielding and dropped catches. Mumbai eventually managed 166 - a decent total on that pitch, but not one that should have seriously troubled RCB. The surface was not exactly a batting paradise and the chase was always within reach if approached sensibly.

But RCB rarely believes in comfort. They started poorly and lost wickets early, then stitched together a few useful partnerships to regain control. Just when the match seemed to be drifting towards a relatively calm finish, they decided to make things interesting again by losing a few more wickets. In the end, RCB crossed the line with absolutely nothing left in reserve - an empty fuel tank, several faulty parts, and nerves hanging by a thread. Splendid match. Chaotic, stressful and immensely entertaining.

I could have been there. I was close to booking tickets for the game, but first the forecast of excessive heat and later the forecast of rain discouraged me from taking a flight to Raipur. In hindsight, I wish I had gone. Matches like this are worth every penny.