Friday, June 12, 2026

Friends Need Counseling Too


अलसस्य कुतो विद्या, अविद्यस्य कुतः धनम्।
अधनस्य कुतो मित्रम्, अमित्रस्य कुतः सुखम्

Learnt the above verse or saying in school. It means 'How can a lazy person acquire knowledge? And without knowledge, how can there be wealth? Without wealth, how can one have friends? And without friends, where is happiness? While I agree with it entirely, the part that I especially agree with is 'अमित्रस्य कुतः सुखम्' i.e., without friends, where is happiness?

I have always believed that male friendship is one of the most special relationships in the world. One of the purest. There is no ceremony that marks its beginning and no institution that holds it together. Two people simply choose each other. There is no clearly defined role to perform, less expectations, less questions. 

However, I wonder why we have marriage counseling but nothing similar for friendships. Maybe it is because male friendships are simple and seldom require an intervention. And perhaps, compared to other relationships, they do have less friction. But friendships can enter rough waters too. People misunderstand each other, say mean things, grow apart, stop talking over silly things, and quietly carry the pain. 

I am not sure if 'Friendship Counseling' or 'Friendship Therapy' is actually the answer. Or if there is a need and market for that. It is just that some relationships are truly worth saving and people should have tools to navigate through tricky roads. Just a random thought.

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